September 30, 2016

We spread your ashes today. We drove to the rest area at Vail Pass and took Shrine Pass road about 10 minutes to the trailhead. We followed the path for about half a mile until we found a stream in an open meadow. It faced the back bowls of Copper Mountain. There was an 8-10... Continue Reading →

“To believe in an invisible order, a divine or implicate order as quantum physics calls it, or the order beneath the disorder that chaos theory describes, is a healthier, more interesting choice than seeing no meaning in life whatsoever”-Caroline Myss It is remarkable, if that’s even the right word, that humans live in such a... Continue Reading →


In prosperity our friends know us. In adversity we know our friends.- John Churton Collins I greeted over 200 people at Jim's memorial service. I had only met him once prior to Jim's service. He hired Jim in 2000 & they hadn't worked together very long but had kept in touch over the years. He... Continue Reading →

This Is The Only Moment There Is.

Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have. Make the NOW the primary focus of your life. Eckhart Tolle in The Power of Now Immediately after Jim’s death I anchored myself in the present moment. Both the past and the future were too painful for me to think about. My memories of... Continue Reading →

Showing God

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When your burden is heaviest, you can always lighten a little some other burden. At the times when you cannot see God, there is still open to you the sacred possibility, to show God; for it is the love and kindness of human hearts through which the divine reality comes home to people, whether they name it or not. Let this thought, then, stay with you: there may be times when you cannot find help, but there is no time when you cannot give help.

— George S. Merriam

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From the first day, Hanalei was a daddy’s girl; they had an immediate bond. After Hanalei was born, I stayed home with her so my life followed a structured routine around feedings, nap time, bath time & over packing the diaper bag whenever we left the house. A routine every new parent knows well. I remember... Continue Reading →

Wild and Crazy

In February, I began a grief therapy workshop that lasted 10 weeks. On the first night, I had to write what my intentions were for the class, what I hoped to get out of it. I wrote, I want to live for myself as much as I am living for Hanalei. When I was at Jim’s bedside... Continue Reading →


One of the gifts I've discovered in dealing with loss is that I have equanimity in dealing with life's problems. Things that used to stress me out don't. I have a new perspective on what is important and what is worth getting stressed over. This can make it hard to relate to other people. Those... Continue Reading →

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